Anyone who's been there will tell you that ending a Toxic Relationship with a family member or Spouse is one of the most painful and stressful experiences they've ever been through. They'll also tell you that it is freeing and brings with it a new found feeling of hope and peace, healing and health.
Breaking free from a toxic relationship can be a confusing, gut-retching and sorrowful time. You may feel off balance, insecure and have lots of questions about issues you've never faced before. That's why I've put together this list of helpful tips that my clients have used with great results.
1. Seek Guidance from God and Learn to be Lead by the Spirit
The most important advice I can give is this; seek to know God’s will concerning your life.
Pour out your heart and tell Him how you feel and what you want. Let yourself be comforted and supported by Him at all times. He won’t take away the free agency of another, but he will carry you through the rough times. Take time to be still and listen, you will learn to recognize His presence and you will know that you are not alone. Listen to what the spirit is wanting to communicate to you. The answers will come, and when they do, act on them as best you can.
Ask Him for the strength and power to accept His answers to your prayers. Ask for strength to move forward with hope, faith and conviction. Don't let fear cause you to retreat from what you know is right for you.
2. Seek the Company of People Who Will Lift and Support You
Prayerfully reach out to a trusted friend or church leader. Let them help you through this difficult
journey. Be careful of those who will seek to take advantage of you or who have a desire to dwell on the negative aspects of your circumstance. Watch for the good people who will show up in your life to lift you and lend positive encouragement. Embrace them and let them into your life. Learn from the experiences of others who have been where you are.
3. Create a Plan of Action
It can be very hard to think about practical matters when the heart is hurting. However, moving forward with a plan of action will help you to look forward with hope for your future. Your plans will undoubtedly have setbacks and you’ll need to adjust them from time to time, but having a plan will help you to stay focused and motivated on your healing journey. Following a plan will help you to feel grounded and give you some hope for the future. You may want to enlist the help of a trusted friend, lifestyle consultant, or other type of professional to help you create and navigate your plan. Following a plan is freeing. It brings with it a feeling of accomplishment and increased self worth and helps you to focus forward.
4. Take Loving Care of Yourself
Most likely, your self-esteem has taken a beating! You may also be morning the loss of this toxic loved one, regardless of how bad the relationship was. Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself time to heal. Educate yourself on the health benefits of a plant-based diet. Look for simple, healthy ways to create a self care routine that you can look forward to. Learn how to Pamper yourself and practice saying nice things to yourself. Learn how to be your own best friend.
5. Create a Positive Environment
As you go through this transition time, look around you and notice what you can do to create an environment that uplifts you. Listen to music that uplifts and invites the spirit of God to dwell with you. Let go of things that are not serving your best and highest good. Learn how to create a toxic free environment that encourages health and well-being.
6. Make Time to Play and Relax
Make time to play and relax. You deserve it. Close your eyes and remember how easy it was to play and have fun when you were a child. Now open your eyes and think of something you can do that will be relaxing, entertaining or even exhilarating. It can be as simple as taking a walk through a park, laughing and talking with a friend or playing a game with a child. Use your imagination and create some fun, relaxation and enjoyment for yourself.
You may want to print this list and post it as a reminder to be good to yourself and stay strong in your convictions.
If you haven't already, you may want to sign up for a Free Consultation. I'm here to listen and to help you experience relief and to assist you with proven solutions to heal your life! I've dedicated myself to helping people overcome challenging emotional, relationship and health issues that are keeping them stuck and feeling hopeless.
There is Hope for a brighter future!
If you liked this article, you may like to read "Are You In A Toxic Relationship?"
I'm a Personal Lifestyle Consultant, Family Herbalist and Emotion Code Practitioner.